• bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net
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    He didn’t disagree. He’s trying to tell you, creating prescriptive grammar rules will make you less understood. You have decided to add a conlang feature to the English language. Your expectations on this are impossible to meet, because it requires the people that you are speaking with both research you AND internalize this rule only you have prescribed.

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      It worked when other trans people decided that pronouns are something a person chooses for themself, rather than something society chooses for a person. People have just forgotten that. Drag will remind them, and it will be fine.

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        It’s not about picking specific pronouns, though. People want to be addressed in a manner consistent with their gender identity. What is your gender identity?

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            Could you provide an article or some description expanding on that? I don’t know how that is a gender, instead of an occupation/ preference

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              Genders can be occupations too. Womanhood spent several thousand years being basically equal to domestic servant. And have you ever heard the line “join the army and become a man”? Among the Bugis people of indonesia, “priest” is a nonbinary gender.

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                  Well, drag is an anarcho-communist, is engaged to marry drag’s pet dragon, likes all forms of science fiction and fantasy, is a wizard, prefers power metal over most other genres of music, and thinks Python lends itself too easily to non-OOP designs. Anything more specific you’d like to know?

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                    No, it seems like you identify in a non-binary way and they/them would be an appropriate way to address you.

                    This isn’t saying you should or shouldn’t be addressed in a specific way, I’m saying it’s not clear what your gender identity is. You’ve stated an occupation, not a gender. I don’t want to get into how I disagree that gender can be an occupation, but you haven’t said anything about how an occupation can be a gender.