While I love the trans community and all my friends I’ve made through being trans… I’d rather just be cis, even cis as my birth sex. Being trans isn’t a choice, if it was I would not be trans, it’s hard, very hard, and society makes the difficulty 10x worse.
I was born male, identify as male, and am attracted to women only. If given the opportunity to be an actual real cis woman, I probably would take it. In games and such I always prefer to play as a female character, as a child in our made up games with my siblings I usually pretended to be a girl character and the thought of being a girl made me feel warm and fuzzy inside. I’ve even been dressed up in drag more than once in my adult life and enjoyed it. I’ve often wondered if this means I’m an egg… but I’ve come to the conclusion that even if I was trans, the process of actually transitioning and the social repercussions would make it not worth it to me. I don’t mind being a man. Some aspects of it do suck, but then again a lot of aspects of being a woman suck pretty hard too. I actually feel very secure in my masculinity and scoff at toxic masculinity traits, laughing at guys who are self conscious about apearing even a little bit effeminate or submissive.
But still, I often wonder what life would’ve been like if was born a girl. My name would’ve been Gloria. My mother told me that she was expecting a girl and that was the name she had picked out for me. Instead I was named by one of the nurses…
My GF is a dysphoria girl, she transitioned because of intense dysphoria, I’m kinda half-and-half in that there were/are parts of me I get bad dysphoria about, but also parts of me that were/are not and my decision to transitioned was also based on feelings of euphoria (though oddly transitioning actually kinda adjusted my dysphoria dials from what they were originally). It sounds like you could be one of us that doesn’t have dysphoria, but instead would just feel better transitioning.
You have a lot of thoughts of a trans girl, or at least of a gender fluid or non-binary person fwiw. Be the u that makes u comfy.
For me that meant transitioning, for u, maybe just being comf as you are?
I can echo this. I’ve told my friends and even mentioned in support groups that if there was a pill I could take to make me “feel like a boy” and not have to transition to deal with my dypshoria, I’d take that pill every day with my blood pressure meds. That pill (and any treatment that claims to have that effect) doesn’t exist, so transitioning is my only option. I wish every day that I wasn’t trans, but at the same time I also am thankful that I get to actually try to fix this dysphoria with something other than a 9mm to the brain.
EDIT: To clarify also, the time for such a pill is long gone for me. I am a woman, even if they find a “cure” for dysphoria that isn’t transitioning and gender-affirming care.
Yeah it’s “too late” for me too, I’m locked in, and if there was a pill that did that I’d have some serious ethical concerns regardless. What I mean is more if I could have decided before being born.
While I love the trans community and all my friends I’ve made through being trans… I’d rather just be cis, even cis as my birth sex. Being trans isn’t a choice, if it was I would not be trans, it’s hard, very hard, and society makes the difficulty 10x worse.
I was born male, identify as male, and am attracted to women only. If given the opportunity to be an actual real cis woman, I probably would take it. In games and such I always prefer to play as a female character, as a child in our made up games with my siblings I usually pretended to be a girl character and the thought of being a girl made me feel warm and fuzzy inside. I’ve even been dressed up in drag more than once in my adult life and enjoyed it. I’ve often wondered if this means I’m an egg… but I’ve come to the conclusion that even if I was trans, the process of actually transitioning and the social repercussions would make it not worth it to me. I don’t mind being a man. Some aspects of it do suck, but then again a lot of aspects of being a woman suck pretty hard too. I actually feel very secure in my masculinity and scoff at toxic masculinity traits, laughing at guys who are self conscious about apearing even a little bit effeminate or submissive.
But still, I often wonder what life would’ve been like if was born a girl. My name would’ve been Gloria. My mother told me that she was expecting a girl and that was the name she had picked out for me. Instead I was named by one of the nurses…
I just am who I am 🤷🏼♂️
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk I guess…
I can’t tell if this is copypasta, but if it’s not, you might be a woman. Just saying.
My GF is a dysphoria girl, she transitioned because of intense dysphoria, I’m kinda half-and-half in that there were/are parts of me I get bad dysphoria about, but also parts of me that were/are not and my decision to transitioned was also based on feelings of euphoria (though oddly transitioning actually kinda adjusted my dysphoria dials from what they were originally). It sounds like you could be one of us that doesn’t have dysphoria, but instead would just feel better transitioning.
You have a lot of thoughts of a trans girl, or at least of a gender fluid or non-binary person fwiw. Be the u that makes u comfy.
For me that meant transitioning, for u, maybe just being comf as you are?
I can echo this. I’ve told my friends and even mentioned in support groups that if there was a pill I could take to make me “feel like a boy” and not have to transition to deal with my dypshoria, I’d take that pill every day with my blood pressure meds. That pill (and any treatment that claims to have that effect) doesn’t exist, so transitioning is my only option. I wish every day that I wasn’t trans, but at the same time I also am thankful that I get to actually try to fix this dysphoria with something other than a 9mm to the brain.
EDIT: To clarify also, the time for such a pill is long gone for me. I am a woman, even if they find a “cure” for dysphoria that isn’t transitioning and gender-affirming care.
Yeah it’s “too late” for me too, I’m locked in, and if there was a pill that did that I’d have some serious ethical concerns regardless. What I mean is more if I could have decided before being born.