I don’t even think it’s like that. If the trans person happened to be a church member before they may be somewhat comfortable with them thus, one of the good ones. If the wife was liked in the church the guy would be out.
The whole notion of good and bad is comfort level. That is why anyone who questions their faith is rejected as an other. They viscerally dislike being uncomfortable and externalize it as hate so they don’t need to feel bad.
That’s fair. One formative experience i had was seeing my childhood church have many parishioners reject our priest. He was pretty radical for a catholic priest having gone on record asking his bishop to perform two separate lesbian weddings (his sister and neice), when I came out of the closet he offered to talk to my ex father about how there’s a commandment about loving family but none about gender, and he routinely called for his parishioners to think and actually strive to be better people. They did not like that. They also really didn’t like when he kept telling the teenagers that he’d rather we think about our beliefs and convert away than to just stay catholic because we were raised that way.
I don’t even think it’s like that. If the trans person happened to be a church member before they may be somewhat comfortable with them thus, one of the good ones. If the wife was liked in the church the guy would be out.
The whole notion of good and bad is comfort level. That is why anyone who questions their faith is rejected as an other. They viscerally dislike being uncomfortable and externalize it as hate so they don’t need to feel bad.
That’s fair. One formative experience i had was seeing my childhood church have many parishioners reject our priest. He was pretty radical for a catholic priest having gone on record asking his bishop to perform two separate lesbian weddings (his sister and neice), when I came out of the closet he offered to talk to my ex father about how there’s a commandment about loving family but none about gender, and he routinely called for his parishioners to think and actually strive to be better people. They did not like that. They also really didn’t like when he kept telling the teenagers that he’d rather we think about our beliefs and convert away than to just stay catholic because we were raised that way.