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      I mean she found him cute so he wasn’t actually ugly.

      I on the other hand get “oh, you looked better from far away.” You want ugly I can show you ugly! Lmao

      Edit: I’d “love” to gross you all out with my picture, but I value being at least somewhat anonymous so I don’t want to link a picture to my username lol

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            Actually sounds kimda hot to me. Just because you aren’t attracted to you doesn’t mean I won’t be. I guess the trick is finding someone you are also attracted to in return.

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              “much uglier, balding, short”

              “Sounds kinda hot”

              Why can’t people like you live near me!? lmao

              I should say that while I’m not exactly “picky” as in passing over people for superficial things, I also don’t want “just anyone.” So like sure, I could probably pick up a real mess of a person with all sorts of drama, but then I’d be with a mess of a person with all sorts of drama lol

              Edit: Should have said I’m not calling you a mess of a person, just speaking generally lol

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                Tbf, you also said “hairy,” which is a huge turn-on for some ladies. My SO is obsessed with hairy. I didn’t know that was a thing until her.

                Get confident. That’s what sold my girl on me. I walk, talk and otherwise behave confidently, even when I have no fu#$ing clue.

                Bonus points: my SO also points out when other girls check me out. I’m oblivious to that stuff, so that’s a nice boost.

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                  The confidence thing helps some people, but I don’t think I have much success with that. I come off as very insecure on lemmy because I’m anonymous and can be open and honest about how I see myself, but when I’m out and about I’m walking with my chest high and when communicating I’m generally charming, always aiming to make someone laugh.

                  For someone who hates a lot about myself, you wouldn’t know it at all if you met me in person lol

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            Ouch, balding, yes I get you fam. Also balding in my 23. If you talking about Herman in his youth, honestly he was good looking. So an uglier version of him sounds just average. I’m a very tall guy but that didn’t help me in relationship department so I can’t really judge by height.

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          Mix Peewee Hermans face with Danny devitos hair and height and then imagine that person is actually uglier than just that combo lol

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            I feel attacked. First of all, both of those guys are hot. Paul Rubens was always hot as fuck in my opinion. Seriously. He’s just my type. And Danny Devito is one of those guys that becomes hot as you get to know him a bit. Then, he becomes a complete fucking stud.

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            Hard to imagine, also I don’t think that would necessarily be bad-looking. Hard to judge without photographs, would like to ask for one if it’s fine

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              I don’t really know how to do that without it being visible for others, I don’t really want to link my face to my account.

              I know I’ve pretty much given up my general location in comments elsewhere, but I feel like I can be most honest when I have at least some form of anonymity lol

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      That’s because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The big point is that you need to get out there, take risks, ask a girl or guy, sometimes get a date, sometimes get rejected… you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

      If you really are out there, go to hobby clubs, be it stamp collection or a gymnasium, or a bar, go places, go meet people. I can’t talk for you of course but in my experience most people with the “nobody wants me!” problem never go out. How is anyone to like you if nobody knows you exist?

      It’s like being a website. Get your ass on google, Facebook, Reddit, whatever. If nobody can find your site, your site may as well not exist.

      And just to be clear: Being rejected sucks. But it’s part of life and you move on. Don’t try to date Ana de Armas right away, and complain that no girl wants you. Date normal guys and or gals, ideally with People that share your likes and values. Don’t settle for the first person who you date, find out what you like, find out what you hate but FFS, find out! Go out, do something, don’t just sit inside.

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        Honestly I would rather be lonely than be the guy that makes women uncomfortable by hitting on them.

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          There’s a significant gap between thinking “she’s cute, I’ll ask if she’s available” and catcalling while trying to molest her.

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      Most ugly people are not really ugly, they just need a haircut and a higher quality webcam.