I think in this instance is a bit different, we are talking about reaction in this case to the supposed aggressor. I won’t lie I am guilty of this myself at times, but this can also be detrimental on many interactions (depending if we are talking about a stranger vs a friend or family member). To be clear, we as humans are hardwired to always prioritize our well being first, and sometimes that does contradict on how our behavior is expected. However, on every instance of these events we should be able to first think how we should react and then do something about it (on a flight or fight situation this does not exist, since at that point our reflexes and reactions prioritize our well being first no matter what). Meaning, for the most part we should try to behave in a way that de escalates a situation instead of escalating. And for my understating, this is where the kindness argument comes in. If a situation can be de escalated by not responding on the same way as the aggressor, you can potentially get out of the aggression situation to a more neutral ground.

PS: regarding your internalization bit, I cannot say what is the best way to live your life, but from my personal experience, having someone to just talk to about these subjects can be extremely valuable. Just by offloading in a constructive way to someone (meaning, no lashing out) can relieve a massive burden out of you (and as for me, I do not believe in the methods where there is not feedback, e.g.: diaries, but that is my take)

I am not from the US, but I do see in many places (if not all) this “us vs them” mentality. From what I know, specifically in politics, by giving a “face” to a specific problem and then lash out on that “face” to have more influence has been a constant lately (I believe the rise of the extreme right has a lot to do with this). In general, I am a firm believer emotional intelligence is in extreme short supply everywhere. We need to have more understanding how we should behave with ourselves and others. Society wise needs to change as well, but that is a tall order…

You are not wrong in your thinking. However ,if someones lashes at you, then you by turn lash out to someone else unrelated to your issues, and then by consequence that person lashes out again on someone unrelated, very quickly becomes a very long and complicated chain that you simply can’t stop from coming at you, but you can stop it from spreading once it reaches you. This has been debated for a very long time as the cycle of rage, which to be honest, I am not sure if we have a way out completely. Maybe over time we care more about emotional intelligence and make these problems less prevalent (but I would not bet on that)

I was reading about it and I actually like a lot this solution’s principle. It reminds me a lot of puppet which I have seen before (for other kind of tasks) to orchestrate several computers. Big shame it works on windows though, since I have a server with docker on ubuntu server at this point and was not really looking forward to change that. But thanks for the suggestion, is for sure very interesting

Nowadays I sort of do this with seafile. Select folders to sync, open the app every other time to resync stuff, carry on with your day. The only thing I wanted to take away if there is a better way to not have a massive hassle to reinstall everything in case something happens (and in case I forget to select a folder to sync also).

But your suggestion I think is very valid as well. At least for mint have a way to make a more automated installer or similar to get the stuff I use usually. Yet another rabbit hole to go into…

I checked a couple of times time shift, but it’s a shame not even ftp is allowed as a backup destination.

As for restic, will give a check later

EDIT: just read about restic, and I think this can be the solution I was looking for. Docker image is available and all, so for me that is a big plus. Once I have the chance I will test drive it and see where it goes. Thanks!

Had to search for a while what even pxe boot is, but I believe I came around the suggestion. I like fogproject main idea, sounds like a way to deploy thin clients or similar. Not exactly what I am looking for,but it’s good to know this exists. Thanks!