I want a switch that makes me able to not be perceived.

I joked with my mom about how everything started hurting after 25, and she was baffled because for her the aches also only started after 50.

I second telling her!

And I’m also one for firm squeezes instead. Light touches make me overstimulated. All the light touches for my partner instead!

I’m not judging you right now, just curious. Does it also feel that (gay) men immediately sexualize other men? Do you do that? Did you feel it was done to you?

Was talking to my partner now (he’s a man, I’m not). Wondered if hearing straight men objectifying women when you’re yourself not into women sounds a lot more jarring and unreasonable, precisely because you’re in a way “sober” about women.

I’m not saying men don’t have a huge damaging influence growing up, that a lot can only break with a lot of effort, but with your brother’s friends it sounds also like a bunch of horny teenagers posturing to each other. Not ideal behavior and not always harmless, but far from making men emotionless hole-seeking creatures.

You feel how you feel but just wondering why this feels like such a weird thing to ask for? My own partner told me he enjoys that kind of light touch (also sensorially rather than sexually) and I try to do it whenever I think about it, and it makes me happy that he’s enjoying it, and it’s not like it’s a struggle for me.

I see them for what they are.

You are a man, do you see yourself that way too?

The key is adjusting difficulty so that it’s not too boring but not too frustrating. I am really bad at Elden Ring but I just made myself over leveled and it’s quite fun. Occasionally I just get help for a boss if it’s too frustrating.

I am too old to care about the pride of being good at it though.

Mila Kunis?