• helenslunch@feddit.nl
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    5 months ago

    Yes, I can.

    Then we’ve answered your question about why people “can’t just mind their own business”.

    You’re just able to twist anything and disguise it as empathy “for the children” and couldn’t care the least what the children actually want.

    If you’re just going to assume that anyone who disagrees with you does so on the basis that they’re just a giant piece of shit out to hurt people for no reason, then there is no discussion to be had, and no progress to be made.

    Maybe open your mind to the possibility that that’s not true, and that people simply have legitimate concerns for children, much like yourself, even if they are misplaced. If you want to actually improve the situation you’ll try to empathize and educate them rather than instantly lambast them and treat them like human garbage.

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      The difference is that a blanket ban, even a temporary one “just in case”, is actively hurting children. In the UK, trans teenagers need several years of counseling and doctor visits and jumping through hoops before they can actively start transitioning. These drugs help at least halting puberty, otherwise total transition is much harder or impossible. I don’t think these drugs should be easily accessible, but right now it’s already so hard to get, that kids are getting them from the dark web in secret!

      Sure, there are bad parents, and abusive parents. But you can’t justify saving children by hurting other children. I’m not “assuming” anything. Defending this ban is literally hurting children.

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        Again, you are still trying to argue about why the OP topic is bad. I know. I agree. That is not the conversation I am trying to have.

        But you can’t justify saving children by hurting other children…Defending this ban is literally hurting children.

        Other people disagree with you. That is the whole point. They would say the exact same thing about you. That doesn’t make them bad people, it just makes them misinformed.

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                5 months ago

                I disagree with your conclusion

                I respect your opinion 🙃

                There are some opinions that we must not tolerate

                It’s possible to have a reasoned discussion without “tolerating” the position.

                I’m not saying that there aren’t regular, reasonable people who have genuine concern based in the wellbeing of kids who feel uncomfortable about gender affirming care

                Then I don’t understand why you’re arguing with me. That’s all I’m saying.

                But I have to say that I feel like your position, that we should engage in good faith with people purporting extreme hateful ideology, is extremely harmful

                It’s only “hateful” if you assume their view can be solely attributed to malice, which you’ve already admitted is not necessarily the case.

                And judging them and lobbing insults is super helpful?

                but tone policing people is really unacceptable imo

                LOL “tone policing”? What does that even mean? I don’t even know what your, or anyone else’s tone is.

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                    5 months ago

                    I absolutely believe that lobbing insults and judging people for spreading hateful ideology is very useful.

                    Then you’re delusional.

                    There, have I changed your opinion or I have I given you even more conviction?